What a Woman Wants (we dont really know)

As a woman, I can say that we are constantly and continuously stating what we want in a good man. But the fact is, when we find him we often don’t realize it or don’t know what to do with him. How many times have I seen a woman sabotage a relationship (myself included) with a perfectly good, well to do man because of her past experiences? Or have that one good guy in her life and not even realize it? Sometimes we find every aspect we are looking for in this one man. After all the pain, tears and heartbreak that we have been through he somehow falls into our lives. But once we have him what do we do? I know, through personal experience that despite what we say we want, we don’t always accept it when it finally comes. We say we want a good guy, but leave him for a bad boy. We say we want a lover but find more excitement with a fling. If we truly knew what it was that we wanted, how could we possibly go through so many relationships that we later regret? I can remember having a guy that I wanted for years and years and years. When I finally got him, I sabotaged the whole relationship for myself. He had everything I ever said I was looking for but I lost him. Why is that? I’ve noticed that we as women let the past get the best of us. We hold on to what once was and will not allow what could be to develop. We hold onto the fear of being hurt again, the stubbornness not to allow another man to treat us how our ex’s had and most importantly the ability to be in control. Once we open up and allow that man to get close to us, to allow those feelings to grow, to accept the relationship you to have and the feelings that come along with it we feel as though we are losing that control. We no longer think with our minds but with our hearts. So I ask the question? What do we want? If able to answer this question honestly and allow ourselves to let go and accept him when he comes…only then are we truly ready and only then do we really know what we want.